When Cates went to an audition for a part in “The Big Chill” in 1983, she ran into actor Kevin Kline. When they first met, they were both in relationships with other people.
Two years later, when they were both back to being single, they started dating. On March 5, 1989, Phoebe and Kevin got married.
On October 14, 1991, their son Owen was born, and on March 21, 1994, their daughter Greta was. Owen went on to become a writer, director, and actor; Greta is a singer-songwriter and musician.
The entire family starred together in the 2001 movie “The Anniversary Party.” On Madison Avenue in New York City, Cates opened the Blue Tree store in 2005.